Sleeping Issues

 

I should also mention that this client has been having sleep issues with her children which are the primary reasons for seeking to use The Goulding ProcessSleepTalk.

 

She said that after almost 2 months of the foundation process (yes it took that long for her daughter), she overheard her telling her brother “Alfred, since I’m a big girl now and am learning to sleep on my own, would you like me to show you how to do it?”  The mum is chuffed as this was just through the foundation script!

 

A Goulding Process- SleepTalk® Accredited Consultant – Mary Lynch – NSW – 2014

 

Sleeping Challenges.

 

“Mum advised that she has been keeping up with the The  Goulding Process – SleepTalk® Foundation statement still and that K has been sleeping right through the night again. 

 

I discussed with K how at times a child may begin to regress due to their subconscious negative belief challenging the new positive statements that are coming through or that K may need longer with the foundation script to really cement it in.  

 

Mum and I had a discussion regarding whether we should be focusing more on K’s sleeping habits than food at the moment, mum agreed that his sleeping is more of an issue than the eating of the vegetables.  So I advised her that we will focus on the sleeping issues first and then the eating of his vegetables.”

 

Consultant: NO – 2011

 

 Bladder Control – Sleeping.

 

Feedback Details: “Piddling randomly stopped. Mother gave The Goulding Process -SleepTalk® credit because there were no other logical reasons. More cooperative and sleeping through the night.  

 

Specific suggestions given incorporated understanding of the The Goulding Process – SleepTalk benefits during the daytime conversation. Awareness of our verbalization around children and choices of communication in family setting was also discussed. 

 

Mother was surprised to find out and experienced very quick results with her little girl who miraculously regained her bladder control (within a blink of an eye, mother’s comment). The mother wanted to continue with the Goulding Process – SleepTalk®.  

 

Accredited Consultant: Phyllis Fisher – USA 2015

 

Sleeping Issues: “It was stressful for the entire house.”

 

“Mom SB sent me a testimonial:  My 5 year old would not sleep well through the night. It was stressful for the entire house. Then I came across Aneesha who told me how I could use The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®

 

Once I started there was no looking back. It’s not only helped my child sleep better but he wakes up fresher. I’m thankful to this process  and I totally believe in it.

 

Feedback = positive!”

Aneesha Sethi:  Accredited Consultant – India  2018 

 

 

 Sleep Issues.

 

“ Mum sent me an email update saying that all three children were now falling asleep in their own beds, and that they didn’t need their parents sitting in their bedrooms whilst they fell asleep”.

 

Accredited Consultant – Georgina Broendal – Denmark 2018

 

 Sleeping and Eating Issues.

 

The End Results:  “Both concerns of sleeping habits and eating habits were improved and mum is happy with the results.  In addition, she has also learnt new parenting skills to encourage and engage her child in a different way, which is the reason for her initial visit. 

 

Conclusion: I have reinforced to mum that The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® is not only about doing the process.  But there is one important condition which binds the whole SleepTalk® together and that is unconditional love from parents and the child’s ability to feel this unconditional love from parents.

 

SleepTalk® is a “Gift” which last a lifetime.  Whatever that she has done during the foundation stage stays in the mind of her little one.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Kilyn Liong – Singapore 2018

 

Sleeping & Confidence

 

With my 7 year old daughter, we had issues with her anger, insecurity and with her coming into our bed in the middle of the night, which was causing tension within the family, as we could not find a productive method that worked and prevented all this.

 

The first night I did The Goulding Process- SleepTalk with her, she slept all night in her own bed – the first time in years! I was shocked, she herself was surprised and very proud of herself!

 

I have witnessed a calmness about her, a confidence, a positivity, an independence and security since I have implemented the foundation statement.

 

Over summer I got out of habit and routine of doing it. Then I slowly saw old habits creeping back in – she was getting back into my bed again at night-time, she was getting angry easily, etc … so I started  The Goulding Process- SleepTalk again and things resolved themselves.

 

She is asleep when I do The SleepTalk® protocol, but she sometime says to me as she goes to bed, “Please mummy, can you stroke my head and say those words to me again when I’m sleeping?”

This surprises me, as she is asleep, so not quite sure how she knows? So I say to her, “Do you remember what i say?” … her reply, “No, but it makes me happy”!

 

My son is 11 years old. He has severe special needs. He can’t talk. He is a very happy, calm child, who cannot verbally give me feedback about life, so I have no real proof if it is working for him or not … BUT when I do The Goulding Process- SleepTalk – again he is asleep, but every time I say THE script he suddenly smiles whilst asleep … that says it all to me!

 

I feel I am giving him a little bit of security and reinforcement of what he already knows every time I do it!

 

As a mum, it has had personal benefits, as I love doing it … it has given me a few minutes every night, that feels a beautiful, peaceful, special, magical bonding time with my children – it really feels like pure unconditional love.

 

 

I have witnessed some beautiful positive changes in my children, which I believe is from this method, but who knows if this is just coincidence and if it really works or not?

 

I personally really do think it is working for my family and will continue with it, as in my opinion  …  it only takes 2 minutes of your time in an evening and it cannot do any harm, as everything that is said is positive and loving.

 

There is no negativity, nothing intrusive or implying anything apart from making your child know that they are loved, secure and safe. Surely, that is the most important gift any parent can give their child?

 

My daughter is called ‘T’, she is about to turn 8 years old and my son is called ‘R’, he is 11 years old (he has special needs – a rare chromosome condition called, ‘1q44 deletion denovo syndrome’ – which means he has seizure, gross & fine motor issues, non verbal, still in nappies, sensory integration dysfunction, etc, etc …)

 

Beryl Comar – Accredited Training – Parent Feedback – DW – Dubai – 2014

 

Confidence. 

 

From a mother’s perspective, I found the Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ process a beautiful one. It gives me the opportunity to reflect daily on what matters most; unconditional love. 

 

Over the months, I found myself much more accepting of ‘H’s imperfections. In the past I was very anxious about his lack of desire to help others or lack of interest in social activities. Today, I see him positively challenging himself to experience and adapt to new situations.

 

I now feel secure watching him move forward into the next chapter of his life. This experience has certainly made me more confident in sharing the Goulding Process- SleepTalk™ process with others. Thank you Joane for bringing light into so many families! 

 

Parents Feedback: Hasnah Bte A. Rahman – Accredited Consultant and Trainer. Singapore 2017  

 

Confidence.

 

Feedback received from the parent:  “Mother says that she is happy with the changes that have happened so far in ‘L’.  Both parents are committed to continue the Goulding Process, and use the foundation statement for a further month when we will check in again. 

 

In a months’ time I will be looking for further changes in ‘L’ acceptance of others and improvements to her sibling sense of security in the family. This case study is not yet concluded, the family may still need the specific suggestions and we will consider adding them at the next consultation. 

 

The family is feeling closer and calmer as a whole. The process has been particularly beneficial for Mum who was feeling quite helpless at our first consultation.”

 

Accredited Consultant: Kim High – Australia 2019 

 

Developing Confidence and Calmness.

 

“We are delighted with the calmness and self-assurance ‘A’ has, she spontaneously chats about her dreams and goals and is very “natural” in her communication and less guarded  about what people think of her.

 

It is wonderful to see this young lady blossom and follow her passion without being timid and concerned of what others may think.”

 

2018 – Accredited Consultant: Carla Pahl – HongKong

 

Confidence – Nutrition.

 

“Mum sates that: ‘L’ is starting to show “phenomenal change – really excel”. She made the honour roll at school which “she has never done in her life”.

 

She ran for an office on student council and was determined to start working out with a personal trainer to enhance her volleyball success.  

 

She stared a nutrition plan, losing 5 lbs. Mum notes that there have actually been “remarkable changes with both girls”. 

 

L’s change has been dramatic, she is very driven to take extra steps to make varsity team.  Grades in school are now all A’s and B’s. 

 

She made the National Honour Society, where she has never made honour roll in the past.  Mum states she made comments that she was “stupid”; now she makes comments that she knows that she is smart.   

 

Her  “confidence is out the roof!”  She drives her own sleep schedule and makes her own decisions. ‘L’ broke up with a boy that she didn’t feel was truly interested in her prior to homecoming and went with her friends instead.  

 

Mum felt this was a remarkable stand in confidence, whereas prior she would have tended to ‘go along’.”

 

Accredited Consultant – Joy Hoffman – USA 2019

 

Confidence.

After doing the Foundation script of Goulding Process – SleepTalk®  for more than 6 weeks, mother has noticed that ‘WX’ has improved in term of her attitude.

 

She is the middle child, so she tends to complained that mother doesn’t love her and always behave mischievous to get attention (Either bad or good attention).

 

After 6 weeks of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® , mother noticed that she becomes more obedient; no more do any mischievous behaviour to seek attention. Not only this, she also tends to more loving to her siblings and her anxiety level reduced to a manageable level. 

 

After doing a more Phase 2 of the process, tailored made suggestion script, the improvement on ‘WX’ is more significant. She starts to voice out her opinion in school and more confident in herself. Now she has courage to take part in competition and she has more confident in handling exam. 

 

She used to have performance anxiety symptoms when facing exam, but after the Goulding SleepTalk®, her anxiety level towards exam was significantly reduced. She learned that she can wish to get the best result but it is not a must to get best result in order to be successful person. 

 

She learned to tolerate stress and her stress tolerance level has improved significantly. Mother does for both of them in a same room. She chooses to read it silently just right beside their ear, and she found this is more powerful than just read it out loud for all the kids who share the same room.

 

Accredited Consultant – Hiro Koo Kian Yong – Malaysia 2018

 

 Confidence.

 

“Parents have shared that ‘N’ has settled much more at kindergarten now and has enjoyed a number of different trips and activities out-of-house recently too. 

 

She has started swimming and is really enjoying the lessons, and her dance class has also restarted and ‘N’ seems happy to meet all the new children. Both parents feel The Goulding Process – SleepTalk has been an amazing tool which has empowered them to turn their lives around, and they intend to continue indefinitely!”

 

Accredited Consultant – Georgina Broendal – Denmark 2018

 

 Changes in Behaviour.

 

“The parent has managed to overcome her biggest barrier, which is the physical contact with other people. In order to see a better result from The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®, timing and consistency is very important.

 

By doing The Goulding Process -SleepTalk® it doesn’t mean that it can solve all problems but you can see the improvement of certain behaviour. (eg: Sibling rivalry). The child has become more open to new people and new environment.  

 

Focus span has improved positive affirmations in the day time and bite size sandwich is vital to see impact. I realized that along the way of doing The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® you discover more about your child.”  

 

Accredited Consultant Jen Li Soo – Singapore 2018

Sleeping Issues

Hi Ilona, I just wanted to share something that happened earlier this evening. We are all still heavily flu infected except ‘K’ who bought it home initially.

‘P’ (my husband) was trying to die quietly on the lounge when ‘K’ thought she would go in for a cuddle. She was curled up next to him and said totally out of the blue “you know daddy, I used to hate going to bed but now I like it”.

We weren’t sure really what to do with that but just gave her a cuddle and said that’s good honey. Where did that come from? Couldn’t wait four weeks to share:) ‘P’ was totally blown away.

‘R’

2013 Ilonea – Consultant in Training NSW

 

Anxiety and Sleep Issues.

“Completing all areas of this case study, I do believe ‘A’ made great progress. His anxiety decreased; his sleep improved greatly and his scholastic endeavours were improved. Of note was the unforeseen improvement of ‘A’ attitude and behaviour towards his sister. 

Mum was thrilled. She also confessed that she loved this dedicated time with her sleeping babies each night. A positive experience all round.”

Accredited Consultant: Marian Daish – Victoria 2017

 

 Sleeping Issues, Anger, Speech Issues.

“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger. She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.

She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care: “She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”. The parents will continue to use SleepTalk® to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Sleeping Issues.

Parent feedback: “Attempting something for the first time, I was nervous to begin the process, especially as it takes me forever to get ‘L’ to sleep. The thought of waking the child was a huge concern. 

It took me a couple of nights to get into the regular pattern of remembering to administer the foundation process and skill is required to understand and judge when ‘L’ was in the correct brain wave frequency. I found that ‘L’ would give a little sigh and I could begin. I only touch her forehead and stroke her if I have been out and she is in a very deep sleep.

I found that within the first week of starting the process ‘L’ was more affectionate to her father, hugging him and saying I love you.  I found that after working with the foundation process for a week if ‘L’ woke at night I would enter the room and using my calm reassuring voice I would recite the statements. She would instantly settle back down to sleep.

I was using the script during the day with ‘L’ choosing appropriate times and using them in context to what was happening around us. I often hear ‘L’ saying: “Today is a happy day”. 

After about a month of using the foundation process I started saying the words to ‘L’ at night before she would go to sleep. One day she said “Stop Mummy it’s my turn.” And she changed the wording herself to use the foundation stage on me. WOW, I thought what an impact this has had on her. This reinforced to me just how important it is to give our children continual positive reinforcement.”

SleepTalk Mum – Report from Accredited Consultant: MP – 2010 Vic

Outwardly ‘V’ is a bubbly, chatty and very active child. However her parents have a tough time getting ‘V’ to bed, feeding is a nightmare and ‘V’ doesn’t accept other people. Her reaction is, “No, go away!”

I taught Dad and Mom the Sleep Talk (ST) process.  After one night of ST, Dad emailed, very excited to report that ‘V’ had her regular hair cut without a single of tear. As ‘V’ doesn’t take well to strangers touching her, even the same hair-dresser who has been cutting her hair all this while, is not accepted. She cries and frets at each and every hair cutting session. This time, to quote Mom: “She just sat there calmly throughout the whole time, no tears, is it a coincidence?”  I replied, “No, it’s Sleep Talk”.

The next positive incident was a follow-up x-ray session to check on the progress of her operation. ‘V’ had a fall and broke her collar-bone. The pain and trauma of strangers in white coats and covered faces makes her scream, cry and cling on to mom and dad for dear life. After about 1 week of ST, ‘V’ allowed the nurse to take her from mom’s arms, sat on the cold steel platform by herself in the dim x-ray room, and had her x-ray taken without a single tear or whimper!

Going to bed was a one to two hour ritual every night; afternoon naps were 20 -30 minutes to the max. Mom had to stay with her at kindi and friends of her parents do not have the privilege to play with or hold her. She would say, “No, go away”. Meal times are an endurance test for mom. ‘V’ will eat a little of an item, then a bite of another and another…. Proper meals with meat, vegetables and rice are rejected.  Mom was totally exhausted, physically and emotionally trying to keep up with ‘V’.

Stayed on with the Foundation Statement for 4 months, completed the 3^rd “Where Now” document, and after discussing the ‘Primary area of need’, we agreed to add a support suggestion:  I advised parents to play games with ‘V’ to teach her the meaning of “safe” before using the support suggestion.

With ST, ‘V’ has now transformed into a very confident little angel who does not hesitate to apologize if she’s in the wrong. Going to bed is much easier and parents can walk out of the room after about 20 minutes. ‘V’ is willing to try more healthy new food and is also putting on some weight. She can also interact with people now and as the father puts it: “I do not have to worry about emergency calls at work from Mom or pushing the job  of getting ‘V’ to sleep to one another.  Productivity at work also increased as there is no more stress of having to rush home from the office when an “emergency” arise.

2013 – Elis Soo – Consultant – Malaysia

SleepTalk for Children changed my daughter’s life. She went from being an angry child who rarely slept to being the beautiful kind and gentle 13 year old that she is today. I loved the Program so much that I became a SleepTalk Consultant myself! I guess there’s not better recommendation than that!

 Sleeping Difficulty Gone

Delighted with feedback from 5 year old boy. Sleeping in his own bedroom and not in parents bed for the first time in five years. All without protest or complaint. Telling Mum about “happy dreams” he never spoke of dreaming before.

Parents delighted, we have now moved on to more direct statements about eating.

2013 – Josephine P Teague – Consultant in Training UK

 

Sleeping Better – Scratching Less 

After 3 months of The Goulding Process – SleepTalk he became interested in sport, and his coordination and physical ability increased dramatically as did his speech.

 His ability to remain calm and deal with anger did not improve and his mother thought his eczema was causing him quite a lot of distress and anger and he would be scratching until he bled during the night.  

After using the an additional statement he is sleeping better and scratching less. He has also being mentally challenged at day care as he moved into the kindergarten room which he enjoys and suffers less boredom. 

The family is keen to continue using the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® in the future to work on his ability to remain calm.

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Deep Sleep

Parent feedback: “Attempting something for the first time, I was nervous to begin the process, especially as it takes me forever to get ‘L’ to sleep. The thought of waking the child was a huge concern.

 It took me a couple of nights to get into the regular pattern of remembering to administer the foundation process and skill is required to understand and judge when ‘L’ was in the correct brain wave frequency. I found that ‘L’ would give a little sigh and I could begin. I only touch her forehead and stroke her if I have been out and she is in a very deep sleep.

I found that within the first week of starting the process ‘L’ was more affectionate to her father, hugging him and saying I love you.  I found that after working with the foundation process for a week if ‘L’ woke at night I would enter the room and using my calm reassuring voice I would recite the statements. She would instantly settle back down to sleep.

I was using the script during the day with ‘L’ choosing appropriate times and using them in context to what was happening around us. I often hear ‘L’ saying: “Today is a happy day”. 

After about a month of using the foundation process I started saying the words to ‘L’ at night before she would go to sleep. One day she said “Stop Mummy it’s my turn.” And she changed the wording herself to use the foundation stage on me. 

WOW, I thought what an impact this has had on her. This reinforced to me just how important it is to give our children continual positive reinforcement.”

SleepTalk Mum – Report from Accredited Consultant: MP – 2010 Vic 

 

Dry all night 

“Had a very positive result, her sleep improved by 90% and so did her ability to remain calm and deal with anger. She is very affectionate with all family members including her sister who previously was scratched and bitten by her daily.

 She has also become completely toilet trained and dry at night. Speech was also an issue, so after introducing additional ‘specific’ suggestions, the educators commented at her day care: 

“She has really found her voice and become confident and outgoing”. The parents will continue to use the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® to help her navigate her way through future changes and make good choices.”

Accredited Consultant: Olivia Walford – Vic 2018

 

Selective Mutism

“As I have newly started to work with The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®, I have meet the mother and her little 5 years old daughter ‘C’ who is a happy little girl and has suddenly stopped speaking to anyone. This is unusual as she loves to talk a lot. It has happened after she got sick (winter sickness), in December 2015.

Mum has started to worry about her daughter and she took her to her pediatrician for a consult. They have run lots of different tests and send her to a psychiatrist. Nothing has changed, and the Pediatrician referred the mother to me.

I have meet the mother during the month of April, 2016. We have decided with the mother to apply the Sleep Talk Process… After 3 weeks, the mother has given me a call:

“I’m so sad, my daughter is still not talking…

 Has there been any change“ I have asked.

 No, she is just talking to her Teddy bear…”

I couldn’t stop myself to say loud: Houraaaa! She was not talking at all… This is amazing…. Suddenly the mother has realized what she just has said and started to cry of joy. After 12 weeks with the Goulding Process- SleepTalk®, little ‘C’ is talking again and is more happy than ever.

This was a real gift for me… I have meet little ‘C’ dressed like a little princess in her beautiful dress. In the Morning, she said to her mother before visiting me:   “Mummy I want to wear a dress as today is a happy day…”

Accredited Consultant and Trainer: Maha Lahode – Genève 2016

 

Outwardly ‘V’ is a bubbly, chatty and very active child. However her parents have a tough time getting ‘V’ to bed, feeding is a nightmare and ‘V’ doesn’t accept other people. Her reaction is, “No, go away!”

I taught Dad and Mom the Sleep Talk (ST) process.  After one night of ST, Dad emailed, very excited to report that ‘V’ had her regular hair cut without a single of tear. As ‘V’ doesn’t take well to strangers touching her, even the same hair-dresser who has been cutting her hair all this while, is not accepted. She cries and frets at each and every hair cutting session. This time, to quote Mom: “She just sat there calmly throughout the whole time, no tears, is it a coincidence?”  I replied, “No, it’s Sleep Talk”.

The next positive incident was a follow-up x-ray session to check on the progress of her operation. ‘V’ had a fall and broke her collar-bone. The pain and trauma of strangers in white coats and covered faces makes her scream, cry and cling on to mom and dad for dear life. After about 1 week of ST, ‘V’ allowed the nurse to take her from mom’s arms, sat on the cold steel platform by herself in the dim x-ray room, and had her x-ray taken without a single tear or whimper!

Going to bed was a one to two hour ritual every night; afternoon naps were 20 -30 minutes to the max. Mom had to stay with her at kindi and friends of her parents do not have the privilege to play with or hold her. She would say, “No, go away”. Meal times are an endurance test for mom. ‘V’ will eat a little of an item, then a bite of another and another…. Proper meals with meat, vegetables and rice are rejected.  Mom was totally exhausted, physically and emotionally trying to keep up with ‘V’.

Stayed on with the Foundation Statement for 4 months, completed the 3^rd “Where Now” document, and after discussing the ‘Primary area of need’, we agreed to add a support suggestion:  I advised parents to play games with ‘V’ to teach her the meaning of “safe” before using the support suggestion.

With ST, ‘V’ has now transformed into a very confident little angel who does not hesitate to apologize if she’s in the wrong. Going to bed is much easier and parents can walk out of the room after about 20 minutes. ‘V’ is willing to try more healthy new food and is also putting on some weight. She can also interact with people now and as the father puts it: “I do not have to worry about emergency calls at work from Mom or pushing the job  of getting ‘V’ to sleep to one another.  Productivity at work also increased as there is no more stress of having to rush home from the office when an “emergency” arise.

Elis Soo – Consultant – Malaysia 2013

 

Parent Feedback:  “Initially I didn’t think SleepTalk® would have the potential to work on my 3 year old daughter; however after trying the technique that my consultant demonstrated I found my 3 year old to be calmer and more settled with her bedtime routine.  The SleepTalk® process was very easy to follow and manage and we feel at ease with the simple technique Our consultant is helping us with every step of the way and on the whole it has been a worthwhile contribution to my daughters now very healthy sleeping routine”
Consultant:  Jenny Harrison – UK

Melbourne Consultant – Training Course – October 2010.

Feedback from consultant:

Thanks again for the wonderful Saturday where you shared your pearls of wisdom with the group. I’m looking forward to the next two SleepTalk group get-togethers.

I had my first session with a mum a couple of days ago and it went so well! We had a great discussion about her concerns and what she wanted for her 6 year old boy. I followed the suggested procedural format and we covered everything as you showed us. As we went through the ‘Where does my child stand now?’ form, every so often little beams of light seemed to shine into her mind to show greater clarity about what has been happening and maybe why. After going through the Top Hat, the different brain-wave levels, continuous positive statements, the foundation statements and the process she asked if she could also do it with her other two children who are aged 9 and 3. I said a definite yes and that it would be even better that she did do the process with each of them. She went home feeling much happier and empowered.

I rang her last night to see how she went on the first night and she said that everything went really well and she felt so wonderful saying the foundation statements to each of her children. She did mention with amazement that even after just one night her 3 year old girl had the best night’s sleep that she has had for ages and that during the day she was very bright and bubbly. I told her that it just affirms what a powerful process SleepTalk is!!!

Thank you Joane for teaching me this amazing way of helping parents deliver an exquisite gift to their children. We’ve booked the next session in 4 weeks and I’ve arranged to ring her every Sunday evening, if she hasn’t called me during the week.

Specific details are available upon request. Maureen.

 

“Obsessive behaviour issues displayed by ‘L’ about keeping things in order was compelled by hoarding lots of random items.

He does not like his items to be touched or moved, tends to escalate on his anger quickly, clenches his fist and face and he goes red from frustration.

When he gets upset, he cries and begins to hyperventilate. As a form of additional control, he also makes sure he eats everything that is given to him – as a reaction to “not having” or “attention”. 

Mum found the process difficult to start initially, as trying to form the habit at night was a bit of a challenge after a long day.

However, after 2 weeks she had the hang of it and was thoroughly enjoying it. She was encouraged to keep going and kept in regular contact. Significant shifts were noted with ‘L’ anxious behaviour.

Feedback included that he was not collecting as many items, he was being more open to change, willingness to throw random items away (junk),  he also was not crying so hard that previously would have caused him to hyperventilate. Other areas mentioned were a willingness to learn new skills, being ok to start interacting with other kids by using his own initiative and finally being more content to continue doing his own thing. 

There was a 50% improvement so we moved to Phase 2. To ensure that ‘L’ continued to remain calm and secure, we introduced additional suggestions to help build confidence. The biggest behaviour change that was noticed was the obsessive behaviour.

The decrease in his need to hoard items and collect items as well as allowing them to be touched and moved, was a significant and worthwhile improvement.

‘L’ has succeeded quite substantially by improving on some quite escalated behaviour in only 24 weeks of doing the programme. Having decreased his need for control on items through his anxiety which is allowing him to interact more with children and hoard much less.” 

Accredited Consultant – Tarryn Pickup – Sth Africa 

 

Meal Times are Calmer 

“Mum reports that ‘E’ is giving more kisses and cuddles and is generally much more affectionate. She will continue with the Foundation script for the time being and we will consider adding a supporting statement if and when it is deemed to be necessary.

I saw mum again in August. ‘E’ has continued to progress in most areas. She is still a little anxious at times and mum still has concerns about her eating. Meal times are calmer but mum is still worried about ‘E’s weight. 

(She looks fine to me. I think perhaps mum is worrying unnecessarily. Mum has been doing  The Goulding Process – SleepTalk consistently and I felt it was a good time to introduce a support statement to address anxiety and self-esteem issues she still has. 

I spoke to mum in September. She is more than hoppy with  the process. She feels that ‘E’ is less anxious, calmer and that her self-esteem has improved. She will continue with SleepTalk and will talk to her again soon for update.

Kathryn Duncan – Qld 2014

 

Needs to eat

“Initially the main reason ‘H’ parents became interested in the Goulding  Process- SleepTalk® was with the hope that it would help them to get her to eat. Because of the nature of the disease and the body’s inability to break down and absorb food every meal has to be eaten along with enzymes so that the body can benefit from the food. 

This in itself presents a large conflict. The parents understand that they must get their child to eat and so over the course of several years mealtimes have become difficult for all involved. ‘H’ who lacks any control over the situation is desperately seeking control and the parents – mom especially – feel they have no choice but to be in control – allowing her not to eat is simply not an option for them.

The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® has helped in many ways, the parents feel like they are actually doing something constructive. They have found ways to give ‘H’ control in her life so that she is not so insistent on controlling the one thing that has become so difficult for all involved.

The feedback from the parents has been that they have noticed that she is happier and generally more easy going. The parents have also realized their responsibility to do something about the way they are dealing with the fact that they have a daughter with CF.

 A lot of the problems in the home are as a result of the unfairness and anger that mom is experiencing all the time. Our next step is to address specific areas where we can help the child’s overall health and wellbeing.

 Update: After a few months of using The Goulding Process – SleepTalk® unfortunately the parents have not kept up the practice. One of the things that this particular case has taught me is just how profound an impact the Goulding Process – SleepTalk® has on the family unit. 

Even outside of the actual process of giving suggestions to the subconscious mind of the child. The overall awareness in the family of the words we use and the actions of the parents has just as much to do with the success of The Goulding Process- SleepTalk®. 

That added to the empowerment that the parents feel that they are actually doing something to give their child such a gift, all works together to make The Goulding Process- SleepTalk® what it is – nothing less than miraculous.

Consultant: Philip Donegan – Ireland 2009

 

Going very well .

The kids are going very well and are happy.   ‘O’ is eating and sleeping well and ‘H’s talking is much clearer – has come a long way.

Overall I can see that they are confident and happy little people who given we have just moved house and they have new school/kindergartens, they have settled in without any issues or concerns.  In fact they are very excited each day to be going.

At this stage I feel confident that the kids are going well and that a follow up consultation is not necessary.  I will continue to monitor them and at any stage require additional help beyond your very detailed and helpful book I will give you a call.

Thank you for all your help.  SleepTalk® Mum 2009

 

Feedback received:  “A little girl of 4 years was very advanced for her young age. ‘A’ often says she does not like mom and does not like dad. There is a fraternal rivalry with her sister and has ‘A’ has trouble falling asleep.

At the end of the 1^st Phase: ‘A’ has become incredibly calm. The parents had a 10 day break  and ‘A’ lived with her grandparents for the holiday. On her return she started to show anger again especially towards her sister, so the parents re- started the process and found again a clear improvement. She still has some problems falling asleep but is improving. 

The suggestions chosen or the 2^nd Phase are definitely helping and the parents are amazed by the changes. ‘A’ is continuing to be calm and the parents are more than willing to continue the process.

Accredited Consultant: Rose-Marie Mauron – Genève   

Dearest Kelly and David [*SleepTalk Consultants in Singapore], I am very embarrassed to be writing to you, so long after I completed the SleepTalk® course with you. If you remember, at the time I was pregnant and had a 6 year old boy named Alex and a 4 year old girl named Sophie. I now also have a gorgeous 1 year old baby girl named Olivia.

I really wanted to let you know how fabulous your course in SleepTalk® for Children has been for our family. My older children are so much more confident and resilient (Sophie often says – “it is getting better and better,” with a huge smile on her face!) Alex is feeling far more relaxed and has a more positive “can-do” approach to life.

Perhaps the most obvious and remarkable thing of all is the reaction that baby Olivia has to the SleepTalk® words. When she was only a few months old, I tried to put her down into her cot without cuddling her to sleep, and this change caused her to cry and become quite distressed. After rubbing her back and trying to sing (without much success,) I started to softly repeat the SleepTalk sentences. Even through her now piercing screams, the words and the tone of my voice obviously struck a distinct memory within her – as I had begun the SleepTalk® process when I was three months pregnant with her.

The crying immediately stopped and she swivelled her head towards me and gazed up in wonder. I really have never seen anything like it. I kept repeating the sentences over and over until she calmly got herself off to sleep! Since then I have been using the SleepTalk® method with her and she truly is the most happy, contented and calm little baby.

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for all your faith, efforts and commitment to this work – it truly is miraculous. The biggest obstacle I had to overcome in contacting you was sheer embarrassment!!! Anyway, I meant every word I said and please feel free to use my email and our names – the more parents who know about this the better.

Best wishes,
Nancy Fonseca Singapore October 31, 2007

Dr J and his wife had a 10 ½ year old son, their only child. He had slept with them together since babyhood, then alternated between them, when they later no longer occupied the same bed. When they tried to break him of this habit it always ended up with tantrums, tears and sleepless nights for all, so forcing the issue hadn’t worked for this family. When asked why he didn’t want to sleep by himself, the child he said he got scared – and the parents left it at that.

When the child was approaching secondary school age, they decided to try the Goulding SleepTalk® process.

We began with the foundation process for 21 days with both parents administering the procedure alternately. It was decided that Dr J not ask his son to sleep in his own bed yet. We observed that at the ten day mark the child was happy, however at that time the child showed a preference for sleeping in his mother’s room.

After completing 21 days, the extended script was added for 1 week, after which Joane suggested Dr J tell his child firmly and lovingly that he was old enough, and that it was time for him to sleep in his own bed. Dr J was very reluctant and expressed fear that his son would react by being wakeful and difficult. He spoke to his son who reluctantly agreed to ‘try’ and sleep on his own. At the same time the next phrase was introduced when he changed beds.

It was decided to follow up with an additional suggestion after 2 weeks and to contact Joane to advise outcome.

Dr J phoned Joane 3 weeks later to say that his son’s change to his own bed was accomplished without a problem, with the only complaint being he was a little cold – so a hot water bottle solved the issue. He was proud of his independence.

Dr J was so impressed with the Goulding SleepTalk® process that he has the booklet on show in his reception area.

 

Aged 4 years ‘E’ is still reliant on her dummy/pacifier. The habit does not seem to be easing the older she is getting. She is very good in the morning in terms of not needing it, however later in the afternoon, around bath time and the more tired she becomes the more dependent on the dummy she becomes. She also takes her younger brothers dummy. Other issues that have been raised is specifically around separation anxiety, as she lacks a bit of independence and this comes through in her needing to sleep with Mom in the middle of the night or being fussy when dropped off at school. 

Sleep issues are also a challenge as ‘E’ doesn’t like to sleep in her own bed, not wanting to greet new people and being quite shy. In terms of her eating habits, she can be quite fussy about what she wants to eat. But is quite strong willed and is capable of getting her own food or water or will stick to a singular item to eat like only bacon or only chicken on some days. 

Mom has definitely found the process the most useful and encouraging. She has thoroughly enjoyed implementing this into her household and has called it a very “beautiful process”. ‘E’ has systematically begun to desensitise the dummy habit. Other notable improvements ‘E’ has also begun to sleep in her own bed, has decreased the dependency on Mom, going to bed and falling asleep by herself. Mom has successfully completed The Goulding SleepTalk process, with positive results and feedback. 

Accredited Consultant: Tarryn Pickup – Sth Africa